But. To the people out there who are prone to hitting on women I have to say... Gas stations are NOT the place to pick up women. Neither is any place or situation where a woman has already made her disinterest clear. Is it really too much to ask that we can leave home, run errands, and go about our business without being harassed??
A quote I love from A Dress A Day: "You Don't Have to Be Pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe it to your mother, you don't owe it to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked 'female.' " I think the same goes for a lot of other things. Just because I am female does not mean I owe you my name, my age, or my relationship status. I do not owe you gratitude for your "compliments." I do not owe you a conversation at all. And if you're demanding any of those things, it's not me who's being rude, it's you.
This is not to say you shouldn't strike up conversations with strangers. On the contrary, I enjoy when people do that! There's a lot to be said for intentions though, for people who take a genuine interest in me as a person, and for conversations that revolve around something other than me and my appearance. If I can't tell whether you're being creepy or not, that's not really in your favor. Gahhh.
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This is not to say you shouldn't strike up conversations with strangers. On the contrary, I enjoy when people do that! There's a lot to be said for intentions though, for people who take a genuine interest in me as a person, and for conversations that revolve around something other than me and my appearance. If I can't tell whether you're being creepy or not, that's not really in your favor. Gahhh.
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Rant away. :)
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